my approach to pleasure
make space
be kind with yourself
give yourself all the time you need
explore your body
take space.
Our sessions are a space to identify your belief systems and (if you want!) find new ones. It depends on your perspective - if you continue surviving or decide to live.
I'm happy to support you with questions, challenges and experiments to make new experiences and rewire your expectations towards yourself and life.
Sexuality is just one part of the whole complex system that is you.
My glasses are tainted by a
bio-psycho-social perspective.
considering you in the wider context of your relationships, culture, and past experiences
sex-positive perspective.
let's make it easy to talk about sex, as if it were talking about the weather
queer-positive perspective.
I see sexuality and queerness as a resource of joy
I draw from following methods
cognitive-behavioral (working with challenges, changing current self-beliefs)
psychodynamic (focussing on the relationship and how we have learned to relate to others across life)
embodiment (what I feel in my body)
mindfulness (how I judge and observe myself and others).
With other words: I am eclectic, as I believe all therapeutic methods have different strengths and weaknesses. By having a background in multiple I can adapt to what seems most fitting in the given situation.
We will explore
how to enjoy your:
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connecting w/ sexual desire & pleasure,
easily initiating sex,
discovering your fantasies.
Goodbye to: performance anxiety,
vaginismus, normalising pain,
(erectile dysfunction & premature ejaculation).
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balancing security and adventure,
differences in sexual desire,
monogamy vs. non-monogamy,
cultural clashes (bi-national relationships)
decisions around having children,
staying together vs separating,
non-violent communication, & positive reinforcement,
learning to be curious about one another again.
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what gender am I and what gender am I attracted to?
LGBTQIA*,
queerjoy,
queer community.
how to work through & accept:
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sexual/ emotional abuse,
sexual/ emotional neglect,
physical violence,
betrayal trauma,
loss.
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feeling uncomfortable in your body,
being ashamed of other seeing it,
never having looked at your vulva,
hiding behind loose clothes,
being so focused on how you look, that you forget to feel -
body dissociation.
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usually also called paraphilias
like exhibitionism,
voyeurism,
fetishism,
porn addiction &
paedophilia.
Psychological &
Sexological Coaching
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